He now refuses to use the bathroom in his trailer...but rather uses it in an outhouse and will no longer allow us to wash his clothes, as we used to find bloody garments all the time. He's lost significant weight but seems strong as usual. His brother had the same bleeding problem a few years back and died within 2 years of starting bleeding.
This is not hemorroids...at times, we have found the entire toilet filled with blood and blood soaked clothes aren't coming from hemorroids.
He is scared of a prognosis and absolutely refuses any medical attention or to even talk about any worsening or better conditions he may be experiencing.
Is this colon cancer? He is 56 years old and works 2 jobs and hasn't been to a doctor in probably decades.
Bleeding from the rectum is never a good thing. It can be many things but if one has it then a doctor should be seen as soon as possible.
Does he have other symptoms? Before I was diagnosed I had other symptoms as well as the rectal bleeding, so it may not be anything serious. But I remember before going to get myself checked I was told rectal bleeding should be checked out asap.
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this is a strange opinion, but I feel that mental things sometimes will kill you before anything physical. Your brain controls every thing that goes on in your body, have you ever heard the saying, what you don’t know won’t hurt you? well sometimes that is true. and sometimes it isn’t. The reason he is probably trying to hide these things from you all is so you guys either a) won’t worry for him and b) won’t force him to do something he doesn’t want to do, like seek medical treatment. If you feel extremely strongly about him seeking this medical advice talk to him about it if you can and express to him how important this is to you, he may change his mind, other wise, try to respect his wishes as much as you know possible. I know it is hard, but sometimes we have to do that. and Pray to God and find a spiritual connection, this most certainly helps. Good luck
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Comment by Melissa M — December 15, 2009 @ 3:25 pm
Tell your grandfather that if he really loves you he will get in the car and go to the Dr to get evaluated. If he refuses then there is not much you can do except attend his funeral.
Often people are consumed by their fears and they decide they are already dying and they think that by denying they have a health problem that they can put off whatever bad fate is about to befall them. The trouble with this is that very often they are wrong in their assumptions, they are not dying but have something that could be fixed or treated if they would see a Dr.
Until they come to the realization that seeing the Dr will not speed up their demise there is not much you can do because you are not dealing with rational thoughts but with the deepest inner fears of the mind. You can die a thousand terrible deaths in your own mind and often this is totally unnecessary. Your grandfather might easily have a bad fissure or an ulcer that is fixable or treatable. Who knows? As long as he is consumed by his own fears no one can help him.
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Comment by quijibored — December 15, 2009 @ 3:50 pm
Bleeding from the rectum is never a good thing. It can be many things but if one has it then a doctor should be seen as soon as possible.
Does he have other symptoms? Before I was diagnosed I had other symptoms as well as the rectal bleeding, so it may not be anything serious. But I remember before going to get myself checked I was told rectal bleeding should be checked out asap.
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Comment by Gold C — December 15, 2009 @ 4:12 pm
I had the same symptoms when I was a little younger than him and put off going to the doctor too.When I finally went for a colonoscopy they found out I had a big tumor growing in my rectum.If I had gone in sooner,they could have fixed it without making a major project out of it.I ended up with a colostomy bag and urostomy bag,no rectum,and pain still years later.They asked me why I didn’t go in sooner and I really couldn’t answer that question.Like your grandfather I wanted to ignore it and maybe it would go away but sometimes a person has no choice but to step up and take it on the chin.I hope he finds his way to the doctor soon because he may be in real trouble here.
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Comment by wildmanny2 — December 15, 2009 @ 4:18 pm